Why you’re not getting hired isn’t the question you think it is.
Everyone wants to blame the market. Four people booked coaching calls with me last month, and every single one opened with the same line: “It’s such a tough market out there.”
Then I’d ask what they’d applied for, and they were qualified for all of it. Degree, experience, the whole résumé checked out. So if the market’s the excuse why you’re not getting hired, what’s actually happening?
This episode is Part 1 of a three-part series, Be Chosen, Not Ghosted in a Tough Job Market, and it starts somewhere you wouldn’t expect – with a story I’ve never told this publicly before.
I was five years old the first time someone told me I wasn’t smart enough. That one sentence ran my life for thirty years before I finally named it, and naming it is what became the coaching tool I use with every client who walks through my door convinced they’ve got nothing to offer.
I’ll walk you through exactly how that played out with a client of mine, late twenties, freshly let go, twenty-three applications and two auto-replies to show for it. What we uncovered underneath the résumé is the same thing sitting underneath a lot of interview silences, why you’re not getting hired, a lot of stalled reviews, and a lot of promotions people never asked for out loud.
This isn’t only for the job hunt. Self-limiting beliefs don’t check whether the room is professional or personal. They show up in the performance review you’re dreading, the raise you keep putting off asking for, the conversation you’ve rehearsed tons of times in the shower and never had. If you’ve ever gone quiet in a room where you should’ve spoken up, this one’s for you.
Press play, and bring a pen. You’re going to want to write this one down.
